Kindness
Personality
Traits
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Core
Kindness
Traits
The
baseline
disposition
—
the
instincts
that
make
someone
kind
before
they
have
done
anything
at
all
.
01
Compassion
Being
moved
by
someone
else
'
s
difficulty
,
and
wanting
to
ease
it
rather
than
simply
observe
it
.
02
Empathy
Reading
what
another
person
is
feeling
,
even
when
they
haven
'
t
said
it
and
don
'
t
plan
to
.
03
Generosity
Giving
time
,
attention
,
or
resources
freely
,
without
keeping
a
private
ledger
of
what
'
s
owed
back
.
04
Altruism
Acting
for
another
person
'
s
benefit
even
when
it
costs
you
something
real
—
money
,
time
,
or
comfort
.
05
Warmth
Making
people
feel
welcome
the
moment
they
arrive
,
before
they
'
ve
done
anything
to
earn
it
.
06
Benevolence
Wishing
others
well
by
default
,
rather
than
requiring
them
to
prove
themselves
first
.
07
Tenderness
Handling
another
person
'
s
vulnerability
as
though
it
were
fragile
,
because
it
is
.
08
Goodwill
Holding
no
quiet
grudge
—
including
toward
the
people
who
disagree
with
you
most
.
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Relational
Kindness
Traits
How
kindness
behaves
once
another
person
is
in
the
room
—
the
traits
that
govern
friction
,
disagreement
,
and
repair
.
09
Patience
Staying
calm
through
someone
else
'
s
slow
,
messy
,
or
inconvenient
moment
without
making
them
feel
it
.
10
Tolerance
Making
room
for
people
who
think
,
work
,
worship
,
or
live
differently
than
you
do
.
11
Forgiveness
Releasing
a
grievance
instead
of
carrying
it
forward
and
charging
interest
on
it
.
12
Loyalty
Staying
present
for
people
after
it
stops
being
convenient
or
professionally
useful
.
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13
Attentiveness
Noticing
the
small
things
someone
didn
'
t
have
to
say
out
loud
—
and
remembering
them
next
time
.
14
Tact
Telling
the
truth
in
a
form
the
other
person
can
actually
receive
,
without
softening
it
into
uselessness
.
15
Non
-
judgment
Meeting
people
as
they
are
,
before
sorting
them
into
categories
you
'
ve
already
decided
about
.
16
Respect
Treating
every
person
as
though
their
dignity
matters
—
because
it
does
,
regardless
of
their
station
.
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Emotional
Kindness
Traits
The
inner
warmth
that
keeps
kindness
from
feeling
mechanical
,
transactional
,
or
performed
.
17
Emotional
availability
Being
reachable
when
someone
needs
to
talk
—
not
only
when
the
timing
happens
to
suit
you
.
18
Softness
Lowering
your
guard
so
that
others
feel
safe
enough
to
lower
theirs
.
19
Acceptance
Letting
people
be
exactly
who
they
are
,
unedited
,
without
a
project
attached
to
changing
them
.
20
Affection
Showing
fondness
openly
,
without
embarrassment
,
hedging
,
or
an
ironic
escape
hatch
.
21
Sincerity
Meaning
what
you
say
—
kindness
with
no
performance
,
no
audience
,
and
nothing
being
managed
.
22
Humility
Not
needing
to
be
the
most
important
,
most
right
,
or
most
impressive
person
in
the
room
.
23
Gratitude
Noticing
what
you
have
been
given
and
saying
so
out
loud
,
to
the
person
who
gave
it
.
24
Faith
in
people
Assuming
that
most
people
are
doing
their
best
with
what
they
have
and
what
they
know
.
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Active
Kindness
Traits
Kindness
that
produces
movement
—
effort
,
changed
circumstances
,
and
something
actually
done
.
25
Helpfulness
Stepping
in
before
anyone
has
to
ask
,
and
without
making
a
performance
of
it
afterward
.
2 / 5
26
Service
Organizing
your
work
around
making
someone
else
'
s
day
easier
rather
than
your
own
more
visible
.
27
Hospitality
Turning
a
space
,
a
meal
,
or
a
spare
hour
into
a
genuine
welcome
for
another
person
.
28
Advocacy
Speaking
up
for
the
person
who
isn
'
t
in
the
room
and
cannot
make
the
case
for
themselves
.
29
Encouragement
Naming
a
strength
in
someone
before
they
are
able
to
see
it
in
themselves
.
30
Cooperation
Choosing
the
shared
outcome
over
the
personal
win
,
even
when
you
could
have
taken
the
credit
.
31
Reliability
Being
the
person
who
actually
shows
up
when
they
said
they
would
,
on
the
day
they
said
it
.
32
Follow
-
through
Keeping
the
small
promises
,
not
only
the
large
ones
that
other
people
are
tracking
.
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Character
Strengths
Behind
Kindness
The
backbone
that
keeps
kindness
honest
rather
than
performative
—
especially
when
it
costs
something
.
33
Integrity
Being
kind
in
private
at
exactly
the
same
standard
as
in
public
,
with
no
separate
version
of
yourself
.
34
Courage
Choosing
kindness
in
situations
where
coldness
would
be
easier
,
safer
,
or
more
socially
rewarded
.
35
Fairness
Giving
people
what
they
are
due
rather
than
what
is
convenient
for
you
to
hand
over
.
36
Self
-
awareness
Knowing
the
difference
between
when
your
help
is
helping
and
when
it
is
quietly
interfering
.
37
Restraint
Holding
back
the
sharp
reply
you
could
have
made
and
would
have
won
with
.
38
Self
-
forgiveness
Extending
to
yourself
the
same
grace
you
offer
everyone
else
without
a
second
thought
.
39
Resilience
Staying
kind
after
you
have
been
treated
unkindly
,
rather
than
passing
the
cost
along
.
40
Discretion
Keeping
someone
'
s
confidence
without
needing
any
credit
for
having
kept
it
.
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Quiet
,
Underrated
Kindness
Traits
The
traits
most
often
overlooked
in
lists
like
this
one
—
and
most
often
remembered
by
the
people
who
received
them
.
41
Steadiness
Being
the
calm
in
someone
else
'
s
chaotic
day
without
needing
to
be
asked
to
be
.
42
Playfulness
Making
room
for
lightness
at
the
exact
moment
someone
needs
it
most
.
43
Curiosity
about
others
Asking
the
second
question
,
not
just
the
first
one
that
gets
you
through
the
greeting
.
44
Presence
Giving
someone
your
full
attention
with
nothing
else
in
your
hands
and
nowhere
else
to
be
.
45
Practicality
Solving
the
problem
instead
of
only
sympathizing
with
it
and
leaving
it
intact
.
46
Boundaries
Saying
no
kindly
and
clearly
,
so
that
your
yes
continues
to
mean
something
when
you
give
it
.
47
Consistency
Being
kind
on
ordinary
Tuesdays
,
not
only
during
a
crisis
when
kindness
is
expected
of
everyone
.
48
Knowing
when
to
stay
quiet
Understanding
that
silence
is
sometimes
the
kindest
available
sentence
.
4 / 5
C L U S T ER S
AT
A
G L AN C E
CLUST ER
WHAT
IT
CO VERS
T RAIT S
Core
kindness
The
baseline
disposition
—
what
someone
is
like
before
they
do
anything
.
Compassion
·
Empathy
·
Generosity
·
Altruism
·
Warmth
·
Benevolence
·
Tenderness
·
Goodwill
Relational
kindness
How
kindness
behaves
once
another
person
is
in
the
room
.
Patience
·
Tolerance
·
Forgiveness
·
Loyalty
·
Attentiveness
·
Tact
·
Non
-
judgment
·
Respect
Emotional
kindness
The
inner
warmth
that
keeps
kindness
from
feeling
mechanical
.
Emotional
availability
·
Softness
·
Acceptance
·
Affection
·
Sincerity
·
Humility
·
Gratitude
·
Faith
in
people
Active
kindness
Kindness
that
produces
movement
or
a
changed
situation
.
Helpfulness
·
Service
·
Hospitality
·
Advocacy
·
Encouragement
·
Cooperation
·
Reliability
·
Follow
-
through
Character
strengths
The
backbone
that
keeps
kindness
honest
rather
than
performative
.
Integrity
·
Courage
·
Fairness
·
Self
-
awareness
·
Restraint
·
Self
-
forgiveness
·
Resilience
·
Discretion
Quiet
kindness
The
traits
most
often
overlooked
and
most
often
remembered
.
Steadiness
·
Playfulness
·
Curiosity
about
others
·
Presence
·
Practicality
·
Boundaries
·
Consistency
·
Knowing
when
to
stay
quiet
5 / 5
